Lately I have been watching Dr. Phil in the afternoons while I eat supper before I go subbing or volunteering.. I have always liked Dr. Phil, he seems smart without showing off. Instead, he relates to people where they are at, but doesn't take any crap. He's honest and will call someone out if need be. Yet, he is compassionate and has resources for people to help them, from his books to his website. I've never read his books. I used to read self-help books, when I needed them, but now it has been years since I read my fill.
I do want to talk about an initiative that his wife, Robin, has on the website. Here is the link: http://www.whengeorgiasmiled.org/aspire/
This is a free curriculum about domestic violence, for all interested. Included on this page is a link to a free app that a victim can use to call for help with one touch of a button.
I have not looked at either resources, but from watching Dr. Phil off and on for years, I think it would be helpful. Even in this day and age, domestic abuse is so prevalent, and there seems to be little help for the victims. Not only that, it affects the whole family, not just the spouse. Even if the children are not abused, they learn a dysfunctional and damaging way of relating to others. Like with an addict, the victims focus on the abuser, neglecting all others in the family. The victim doesn't mean to, but they are usually so beaten down, whether physically, mentally, or emotionally, that they don't think they can do without the abuser.
When I see this happen, it breaks my heart. I have had friends who were in abusive relationships, and I wished I could save them. I wished I could get them to see that they don't need this person, that they were of infinite worth. But abuse breaks the spirit.
So if you are in an abusive relationship, get help! No one should be abused, no one has the right to abuse you..